Insight is useful. What you do with it matters.
Individual Therapy
Sometimes knowing why you do something does not make it any easier to stop doing it.
You may find yourself overthinking decisions, second-guessing yourself, trying to keep everyone happy, or repeating patterns you understand but cannot quite seem to change. Maybe things look relatively fine from the outside, but internally you feel anxious, disconnected, resentful, overwhelmed, or simply stuck.
Individual therapy creates space to look more closely at what is happening, understand what may be keeping it in place, and figure out what you want to do differently.
What we might work on
How you relate to yourself
Anxiety and overthinking • perfectionism • self-criticism • self-doubt • confidence • identity and sense of self
How you relate to others
People-pleasing • boundaries • relationship patterns • communication • conflict • difficulty expressing needs
When life changes
Grief and loss • burnout • ADHD • stress and overwhelm • life transitions • changing roles and relationships
What the work can look like
There is not one right way to do individual therapy, but there are a few things I come back to often.
Curiosity + Accountability
Understanding why a pattern makes sense does not mean it has to stay the same. We can approach what is happening with compassion while still asking what belongs to you, what needs to change, and what you want to do differently.
Self-Trust + Self-Compassion
Self-trust does not mean always being certain or getting it right. Part of the work is learning to listen to yourself, tolerate uncertainty, and make room for mistakes without immediately turning against yourself.
Insight + Practice
Understanding a pattern is useful. Changing it usually takes practice. That might mean having a difficult conversation, setting a boundary, sitting with an emotion instead of immediately trying to solve it, or responding differently when an old pattern shows up.
We can make room for the past without assuming everything needs to be traced back to childhood, and focus on practical change without rushing past what deserves to be understood.
Interested in working together?
I offer a free 15-minute consultation for new clients. It is a chance to briefly talk about what you are looking for, ask any questions you have, and get a sense of whether working together feels like a good fit.
I offer in-person therapy in San Diego and virtual sessions throughout California and Utah.